I had a pastor tell me once that the enemy attacks marriages the hardest because the marriage relationship is the most powerful covenant that is used to expand His Kingdom. Together a husband and wife share one of the biggest ministry tools. The enemy tries to destroy marriages by telling us lies to place unrealistic expectations on our spouse. Leanna shares how those lies almost destroyed her marriage, but our God is greater than any lie. Our God is in the business of not only fighting for marriages, but redeeming love stories.
Marriage is not an easy road. It has probably been, next to motherhood, one of the hardest jobs I’ve had, but yet most rewarding. And the only way it’s rewarding, for me, is purely by the grace of God and His works, not our own.
I was a single mom walking broken trying to do my best raising a little girl. My trust in men was broken, and the only way that was going to change was, or so I thought, to have this perfect image of a man. The God fearing, romantic, never fought or raised his voice to me, and most of all I could trust him. Here is the thing, my trust was never put in God first, and that took a long time for me to realize. If your trust is not for your Father in Heaven first then there is no trust in the planned path you think you have.
If your trust is not for your Father in Heaven first then there is no trust in the planned path you think you have.
Fast forward, I met and married my husband. At that time we were not walking as we should. We were living Monday through Saturday one way and Sunday totally different. And in that time my husband was not fulfilling this perfect image that I wanted. And the most destructive of all, I was not letting him play the role as the husband. This caused huge strife in our marriage.
I can’t even remember the fight, but all I remember was he said he was done and he left for the night. The sting of that was crushing for me; all I could think of was not again. I can’t do this again. I called a dear friend sobbing not knowing where to turn and the wisest thing she said to me was “times like these I cry out to God and ask Him to show me what He is teaching me in this situation”. That was exactly what I did, on my knees crying and seeking. God showed me that I was standing in His way of working on my husband. I was trying desperately to change him the way I wanted him to be. It says in 1 Corinthians 8:9, “But take care that this right of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak.”
But I put my trust in the Lord because I knew, “that things work together and for good to and for those who love God and are called according to His design and purpose”. (Romans 8:28)
I was my Husband’s stumbling block. I was the one hindering the good works Christ was trying to do in him. I was being my own worst enemy. Letting go was not easy especially for this control freak of a wife. But I put my trust in the Lord because I knew “that things work together and for good to and for those who love God and are called according to His design and purpose”. (Romans 8:38)
It’s been a few years since that incident, but looking back I knew it needed to happen. I needed a wakeup call. We are now walking as we should, but are we perfect? Absolutely not. I have not only seen a transformation in me, but in my husband as well and in our marriage. And I have to say that it has far exceeded my expectations. God always has a better and greater plan designed for us, we just need to trust and let go and let God. As a wife, I am my husband’s helper, not his savior. That job has been fulfilled by the only one who is qualified; our Lord Jesus Christ.